"Never settle for anything less than butterflies".
I have talked about my marriage and marriage in general before. Now I don't pretend to have a perfect marriage, pretend to be an expert in relationships or anything like that but I would like to add my two cents in on the above quote.
When the topic of marriage comes up around me whether it be someone looking for marriage, deciding if a particular person is the person for them, or sadly ending their marriage everything that goes through my mind usually ties in the quote above.
People get married for the wrong reasons. They are lonely, feel like there is no one else. They are settling due to circumstances like age or what not. Some do it simply because they feel it is the next thing to do in a life of to do lists.
It saddens me. Marriage or even just relationships in general are supposed to be about the excitement of having a partner in life that you love, adore, and are good to look at :) It is about the butterflies. The wonderful feeling at the beginning when you kiss them for the first time. The anticipation of wondering when you will see them again. Then there is the feeling when you are walking down the aisle towards them. The feeling of waking up next to them, watching them hold your child for the first time, or having them hold you close when life simply sucks. The little times where your eyes meet in a crowded room, where you catch each other checking each other out, or when he grabs your hand in public to let the world know you are his.
Although there are and will be bad or difficult times throughout any relationship you know its a keeper if the butterflies outweigh the bad. There are times when my wonderful husband annoys, upsets, or even disappoints me but the butterflies are still there- probably even stronger than before. The butterflies come in different forms but always have the same effect.
Fight for the butterflies. Don't settle. Love without butterflies just isn't as magical.
-J-
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